For the old traders who have struggled in the financial market for many years, I believe that most people often feel lonely, because they have experienced too much pain and struggle wandering between heaven and hell alone... When losing money, Licking the wound alone, tears flowed into my heart; when making money, I would not be too excited, at most it would be "raise a glass to invite the bright moon, and the shadows will become three people", because they know that these are the results of their huge efforts. get paid.
Old traders are a lonely bunch.
Lonely people, thinking independently, have a larger spiritual world in their minds. It's not that they are unwilling or don't want to share their mental journey with others, but because others can't understand it, and it's useless to say it.
Old traders occasionally communicate with each other. Their communication lies in broadening their thinking and logical communication, not in trading decisions.
Zhou Guoping said, "Loneliness is a heart worthy of understanding that seeks understanding but cannot find it. It is tragic; boredom is an empty soul that seeks entertainment but cannot find it. It is comical; loneliness is seeking ordinary human warmth. Rather than unavailable, it is neutral; however, people tend to confuse them, and even pass boredom as loneliness..."
Loneliness is not loneliness, loneliness is a height of thought, a realm of life, and it is precisely because of these realms that we become more lonely.
If you want to choose to trade for a living, please be cautious and be mentally prepared, because you are choosing to drink with loneliness for a lifetime !
Why do you say that?
First of all, it is difficult for you to get the understanding and support of your family.
In China, the concept of personal career investment has not been generally accepted. If you choose to make a living by trading, you basically cut off your own future. If you don’t have a job, you will have no fixed source of income. You will spend three to five years at home every day. , if you are lucky and make money, it is only right and proper in the eyes of your family members, because they do not understand the high pressure and inner struggle you are under; scold you bloody...
Secondly, you will become "different" because of the tempering of human nature.
In other industries, in the journey of life, you will rarely experience the torture and experience of human nature. Even if you do, you will encounter it occasionally; while trading is a process of fighting against human nature all the time. What you experience is the life of ordinary people, even The ups and downs that I have never experienced in several lifetimes, therefore, this is also a process of reshaping myself and sublimating my personality.
After 7 or 8 years, your perspective on problems and the way you handle things will be very different. It is easier than ordinary people to see the essence of things. Things that seem simple to others may be complicated to you, but very simple. You will simplify complicated things; and your character will also change due to the long-term tempering of the market, just like soldiers who survived the battlefield. They are real warriors who climbed out of the dead, but ordinary people If you haven't experienced it, how can you understand the cruelty on the battlefield?
Therefore, your family and friends will think you are getting more and more weird, in fact, there are fewer and fewer people who can understand you and chat with you...
In the end, there is not much to communicate between you and like-minded traders.
Veteran traders are people who have fought in the market for many years and fought a bloody road. They already have a stable trading system, and they are only loyal to their own trading system, and they are not very interested in other people's trading systems. ; and each trader has different ideas, uses different techniques, trading systems, etc., so even if they occasionally communicate, there are not many things to talk about, unless there are some other common interests, Hobby.
Therefore, loneliness is not intentional, but the way of trading to the end, you can only drink with loneliness......
So, is it doomed to be alone for a lifetime if you do business?
Loneliness is a state and a feeling in your heart. Although you will feel lonely deep in your heart, you can also do something to adjust it; and the purpose of our trading is to make life better, not to make life worse. It becomes more bleak, so don't put the cart before the horse and focus more on the process rather than the result.
Therefore, there are a few things we can do to balance life and trading:
1. Arrange more time to get together with family and friends.
Humans are social animals that need emotional interaction and connection with others. Decades of life rush by like a white horse, and at the end of life, there are only a few close friends who can really accompany us besides family and relatives. Therefore, you should deliberately arrange more time to get along with them, participate in some activities together, or talk about some topics of common interest, so as to enhance emotions and reduce loneliness.
2. Cultivate more other interests and hobbies, and participate in related clubs and activities.
On the one hand, hobbies can eliminate fatigue and anxiety, and increase the joy of life; on the other hand, they can also cultivate sentiment, gain a sense of joy and accomplishment, and contribute to mental and psychological health; more importantly, they can enhance our resistance. , The ability to take psychological risks makes us more independent and free. For example, if you like playing basketball or karaoke and have exercised to a certain level, when you are frustrated in trading, you can play basketball or karaoke to refresh your sense of existence and accomplishment, so as to relieve the negative emotions and emotions caused by trading frustration. psychological impact.
There is a saying in psychology that the sense of accomplishment, self-esteem and self-confidence you gain in any aspect can improve your overall self-esteem and self-confidence. Therefore, cultivating more interests and developing them into hobbies can benefit us in multiple ways.
Participating in these interests, hobby clubs or activities can also make us more connected to society, thereby reducing loneliness.
3. Read more books and make friends with wise men.
Reading a good book is talking with a wise man, which can not only make us happy, but also improve our vision and wisdom through the wise man's experience and excellent insights; you can even make friends with them and become confidantes, thereby reducing loneliness.
After doing this often, I believe that your sense of loneliness will be greatly reduced. If you still feel lonely often, don’t suffer from loneliness, you can also enjoy loneliness.
God is fair to everyone. When one window is opened for you, another window is closed.
While trading brings you wealth, or is about to bring you wealth, it also brings you loneliness.
Loneliness is pain and happiness...
If you are lucky enough to read this article, but you are not a trading male friend, but a trading wife or girlfriend, please love her more, because under her weak appearance, there is a A strong, tenacious heart.
Or you are not a female friend who does trading, but has a husband or boyfriend who does trading, please be more understanding and gentle, because he not only bears the burden of supporting his family, but also bears the high pressure of the market. Under the surface of lively chatting and laughing, what is hidden is a resolute and strong heart that has been shaped after bloody struggles and struggles with the market.
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